FSA Recovery Affirmation: Ending the Silence Surrounding Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA)
Reclaiming my voice after traumatic invalidation and the experience of toxic shame
Although I will continue to offer affirmations read by me on occasion, research indicates that reading affirmations in your own voice can be more effective than listening to an affirmation being read by someone else. I therefore encourage you to find a private, quiet place and read the below affirmation out loud while playing the below audio clip featuring music by Liborio Conti, who generously provides his work royalty and copyright free.
“When I face the crushing weight of rejection, invalidation, and silence from the very people who should have protected me, I remind myself that their cruelty is not my fault. The trauma they have inflicted, especially when I reached out for help and instead was met with blame, shame, or rejection, is not a reflection of my value or my worth. I know what I have experienced is real, and though their words and actions may try to distort my reality, they cannot erase the validity of my pain. My voice is not too much, and my need for love and support is not excessive.
It hurts deeply to be cast aside, to be seen as the problem for simply seeking the truth or sharing my pain, but I am not responsible for the dysfunction in my family. I refuse to let their toxic projections determine who I am or my capacity to heal. I acknowledge that my journey is complex and often lonely, but I also honor my resilience. Each day I choose to keep going, to find pieces of myself outside of their control, to build a new life that is mine alone. I will not let the voices of denial, blame, or shame drown out the truth of my experience.