Welcome to all of our new free and paid community subscribers - we’re glad you’re here! I’ve made this week’s FSA Recovery Affirmation available to all of my subscribers and included a gift - my new online FSA Recovery Quick-Start Guide! (If you’re new to my Substack and just exploring, you’re welcome to access my recovery guide as well.)
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In addition to today’s affirmation, I’m linking you to a new subscriber resource, the FSA Recovery Quick-Start Guide.
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FSA and the Pain of Family Betrayal
Betrayal trauma, especially when it comes from family, can leave deep emotional and psychological wounds that are difficult to heal.
Unlike betrayal from an external source, the pain of being scapegoated by family members is compounded by the fact that these are the people who should have been our sources of love, protection, and support.
When your family turns against you, blaming you for things that aren't your fault or making you the target of their anger due to patholotical projective identification processes, it can create a profound sense of confusion, isolation, and self-doubt as the foundation of what was supposed to be a safe, nurturing environment has been shattered.
Recovering from family scapegoating abuse requires not just healing from the trauma of betrayal, it also requires us to explore and address issues related to our self identity that was damaged by constant criticism, rejection, and manipulation.
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This process involves recognizing and challenging the harmful narratives (including what I call the ‘scapegoat narrative’) that were imposed on you and slowly replacing them with the truth of who you actually are.
It may take time to regain trust in yourself and others who are deserving of it, but it is entirely possible. (My list of journal prompts for paid subscribers is one such means of getting to know yourself in a more realistic light, free of the damaging scapegoat narrative).
Healing from family betrayal will also require you to set firm boundaries as you commit to surrounding yourself with people who truly see, hear, value, and respect you. It's about reclaiming your voice, validating your emotions, and knowing that your worth is not defined by the toxic dynamics of your family.
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The path of FSA recovery is not easy, but with patience, self-compassion, and support, you can heal and build a future that is free from the chains of family abuse and betrayal. To support you in this endeavor, I’ve created the FSA Recovery Quick-Start Guide, which covers the main points that FSA adult survivors should know in order to better understand - and recover from - this insidious form of systemic psycho-emotional abuse.
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May today's FSA Recovery Affirmation, along with the above free online recovery guide, serve as powerful tools on your healing journey. Remember, the road to recovery is not a race, and each step you take towards reclaiming the truth of who you are is a victory. The wounds from family scapegoating abuse are real, but they need not define who you are or what you are capable of.
You are resilient, worthy of love, and deserving of peace. Use the resources I provide here on my Substack - including our private Community Chat Space - to remind yourself of your strength, to help you break free from the patterns of family betrayal, and to empower yourself to build the life you deserve. (Reminder: Scroll UP to see previous threads after entering our Chat area).
Know that healing from FSA is possible. You are not alone.
Thank you Rebecca for this affirmation and the journal prompts guide. It is such a comfort knowing others understand what I have experienced.
The concepts in this affirmation are themselves prompts for exploration, reflection.