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Rebecca, Reading your post today touched a part of me that rarely finds language outside my own writing. Not because it gave me words I didn’t have—but because it confirmed what I already knew to be true in my bones.

I’ve lived the slow erosion, the exile, the twisting of truth until I could no longer find my own reflection in the mirror held up to me. I didn’t name it Family Scapegoating Abuse for most of my life. I only knew what it felt like to be the problem, the fault line, the one everyone pointed to when their own ground shook.

You speak of soul homicide. That phrase doesn’t overstate—it clarifies. I lived through it. I’ve spent decades retrieving fragments of myself from the wreckage, not through clinical insight, but through the long, often lonely work of healing. I did not find my truth through frameworks or external guidance. I found it inside me—supported by those who stood by me without needing to rewrite my story to suit their comfort.

I am the canyon, and I am the wanderer in it—both. I live in a landscape carved by pain and persistence. And I still experience the scapegoating today—not as a distant past, but a present-tense reality. My lived experience is actively denied. Those I held, supported, carried—who swung in the hammock I kept steady for twenty years—now cry victim. They point their fingers and tell a story where I am to blame. All of it, laid at my feet. Once again.

It happens now at the intersection of family and former workplace—after 22 years of loyalty, care, and presence. Another form of family, now turned against me in the same pattern. The projection continues. The pain repeats. And yet—I no longer collapse under it.

I appreciate your clarity, your effort, and your voice. And I write this not for recognition, but as witness to my own truth. I am still here. Whole, even in pieces. Not broken. Just real.

Jay

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Happy_Sunshine's avatar

Absolutely 💯, this NEEDS TO BE MAINSTREAM AND IN THERAPY MODELS!!

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